What is Trauma?
There are, broadly speaking, two types of trauma.
Acute trauma, sometimes called “Capital T Trauma,” is a term for incidents like natural disasters, assault, sexual violence, car crashes, combat, or any other type of incident that fills a person with fear and horror with threat to physical safety. It could be your own safety, witnessing it happen to someone else, or exposure to knowledge it happened to someone close to you.
Complex trauma is always interpersonal, usually happens repeatedly over time, and may or may not involve physical harm. Verbal abuse, emotional abuse, betrayal, neglect, are some examples.
They both suck.
If you’ve experienced either, I’m deeply sorry you had to go through it.
Effects of Trauma
Some people can experience a trauma without developing trauma-responses; others don’t. Remember, a trait isn’t a symptom, and a symptom isn’t a disorder!
Untreated trauma will rule your life. Depression, anxiety, intense shame, self-doubt, emotional flooding, nightmares, flashbacks, intrusive thoughts, intrusive memories, difficulty regulating emotions, hypervigilance, memory problems, avoiding reminders of the trauma, and chronic pains can drain the joy and vitality from your life.
Many trauma survivors I work with had been in therapy for years without receiving education about or treatment for their trauma, and started believing they are somehow “broken” or “damaged goods.”
Additionally, the LGBTQ community is statistically more likely to be ostracized from family. People of color are especially vulnerable to intergenerational trauma, as well as statistically having fewer resources due to economic disparity from systemic racism and discrimination.
Too often, individuals with privilege use that privilege to avoid talking about it. I’m also acutely aware that my profession has a history of pathologizing the LGBTQ community, blaming women for staying with abusers, and turning a blind eye to the trauma that comes with racism. You can count on a safe space to talk about how this trauma affects you.
I won’t pretend that mindfulness and therapy will insulate you from injustice or ongoing trauma. However, I can commit to a safe space to talk openly about anxiety, depression, and trauma without minimizing or denying how these factors affect you.
Racism, hate crimes, and cultural gaslighting
People of color and the LGBTQ community are especially vulnerable to trauma and PTSD.
- Hate crimes
- Cultural gaslighting
- Horrific news events
- Socio-cultural adversity
- Threats, intimidation, verbal abuse
- Burnout and exhaustion from justifying your trauma, emotions, existence, and people of privilege expecting you to educate them
Take Charge of Your Recovery
You are not a lost cause. You are not hopeless.
Real people who have worked with me said:
- I really couldn’t do anything pre-therapy. I could barely grocery shop or maintain a friendship, and I was never able to achieve any sort of recovery until I started receiving treatment from you.
- It was literally life-saving.
- That was the first time I ever left a therapy session feeling empowered, like I could have control again.
- It’s honestly incredible, I didn’t even know I was smart because it had been so long since I was healthy. I feel like I can do anything now.
If you’re sick of being stuck — sick of hearing “that sounds so hard” or “just let go of it” — tired of missing out on what matters to you — fed up with your history dominating your thoughts and emotions. Call me. Email me. Schedule online. Let’s create the change you want.